About Nonviolent Communication (NVC)
At the core of our work lies Nonviolent Communication (NVC), which offers a simple yet powerful process for communicating in all kinds of situations. NVC was developed in the 1960′s by Dr. Marshall B. Rosenberg, and has been used since then for conflict resolution and mediation around the world, as well as for personal growth and inter/intra personal healing. Today NVC is taught worldwide by Dr. Rosenberg along with a large group of NVC trainers. Based on spiritual principles of human interconnectedness and humanistic psychology, the NVC model is remarkable in its simplicity and depth.
I use NVC because it provides a frame of reference and a doable model in alignment with my purpose to contribute to compassion.
In NVC the awareness is fostered that all humans share the same basic generic NEEDS (e.g. shelter, sustenance, respect, meaning, connection, etc.), that all human endeavors are attempts to meet these universal needs, that each person can identify the needs that they and others are seeking to meet, and that everyone’s needs are equally valuable and important.
FEELINGS are seen as barometers for how well needs are met in each moment. For describing any situation, NVC teaches us to look for the OBSERVATION rather than an analytical understanding or judgment of it. Movement in this model comes from the principle of REQUESTS, where actions are taken out of a natural desire to enrich life for self and others.
The key to conflict resolution is to help parties connect with their own and others’ universal needs; based on this connection mutually satisfying resolutions to any situation tend to occur seemingly spontaneously.
To read more about NVC, including writings by Marshall Rosenberg and video testimonials from dedicated NVC users, or to find out if there is an NVC center near you, visit the website of the international Center for Nonviolent Communication.
This post was written by Ike Lasater with Julie Stiles