words that work

When I do something that stimulates pain in another person and they tell me about it, often the trajectory for me is generally the same; I start out thinking that it’s all the other person and none of it is my fault. I protect myself and place all the blame elsewhere. Even in talking to [...]

We use a flight simulator metaphor in our trainings; we ask people to work in dyads and triads where they can have rehearsals and post-hearsals for the situations in their lives that they find difficult. If something has happened in the past that they would like to have responded to differently, if a pattern keeps [...]

I received an email recently from Jan Blum, a mediator and facilitator who has done John Kinyon’s and my trainings. She now leads a weekly telecircle, and here is an excerpt of what she sent: “As a result of our telecircle, I am beginning to see and accept that conflict pops up everywhere and looks like it’s an unavoidable part of [...]