words that work

A few days ago I had an important conference call and in the days before the call, I was feeling anxious and distressed anticipating the call but unclear about why. I went for a walk the day of the call, and during the walk I realized I was feeling ashamed. I had the belief that [...]

I received an email recently from Jan Blum, a mediator and facilitator who has done John Kinyon’s and my trainings. She now leads a weekly telecircle, and here is an excerpt of what she sent: “As a result of our telecircle, I am beginning to see and accept that conflict pops up everywhere and looks like it’s an unavoidable part of [...]

I used to think that I had to have the answers, that as a lawyer trying to settle a case it was my job to figure out the conflict and come up with a solution that would work for everyone. My emphasis was on rational and logical thinking, and I would try to intellectually understand [...]