Comments for words that work http://wordsthatwork.us/site Sat, 11 Aug 2012 05:20:14 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.3 Comment on Crossing the Chasm by When You Stimulate Pain In Another Person: Tending to Harbored Hurts « Mediate Your Life http://wordsthatwork.us/site/2012/02/crossing-the-chasm/comment-page-1/#comment-6464 When You Stimulate Pain In Another Person: Tending to Harbored Hurts « Mediate Your Life Sat, 11 Aug 2012 05:20:14 +0000 http://wordsthatwork.us/site/?p=868#comment-6464 [...] Your Life helps me get out out of this limbo space. (I wrote about returning to self-connection in a recent article on my Words That Work site.) We can use the Making Amends process when we have been the stimulus [...] [...] Your Life helps me get out out of this limbo space. (I wrote about returning to self-connection in a recent article on my Words That Work site.) We can use the Making Amends process when we have been the stimulus [...]

]]> Comment on Changing Habitual Reaction Patterns by John http://wordsthatwork.us/site/2012/03/changing-habitual-reaction-patterns/comment-page-1/#comment-5177 John Sat, 02 Jun 2012 06:32:18 +0000 http://wordsthatwork.us/site/?p=897#comment-5177 The bit I struggle with most is the idea that it is a choice I have to say something different that will better meet my needs. My experience is that the words don't come, no matter how much I've practiced; the emotions just get in the way and the old script of reactionary judgements spews out. Practice is fine, but no two situations are the same and reality never matches practice. I have the awareness; I do the mourning; I create the alternative, but in the 'eat' of the moment, the choice doesn't come. Changing the habits of 50 years is nigh impossible, I find. Thanks for your important work - I believe it's really important, however poorly I perform at it. The bit I struggle with most is the idea that it is a choice I have to say something different that will better meet my needs. My experience is that the words don’t come, no matter how much I’ve practiced; the emotions just get in the way and the old script of reactionary judgements spews out. Practice is fine, but no two situations are the same and reality never matches practice. I have the awareness; I do the mourning; I create the alternative, but in the ‘eat’ of the moment, the choice doesn’t come. Changing the habits of 50 years is nigh impossible, I find.
Thanks for your important work – I believe it’s really important, however poorly I perform at it.

]]> Comment on Ike’s Story: From Lawyer to NVC Mediator by Suza Francina http://wordsthatwork.us/site/2010/04/ike%e2%80%99s-story-from-lawyer-to-nvc-mediator/comment-page-1/#comment-4594 Suza Francina Tue, 17 Apr 2012 04:08:43 +0000 http://wordsthatwork.speakingoflistening.com/site/?p=279#comment-4594 Hello, Ike, Greetings from Ojai. As I write this I remember the yoga class I took from you in the mid 1970s on 9th Avenue in San Francisco. I just finished reading your story from lawyer to mediator. So inspiring to see how your life is evolving. Happy to see your work is taking you to the Netherlands, my Dutch roots... fascinating that you are in Poland! With love and appreciation for you and your work, Suza Hello, Ike,
Greetings from Ojai. As I write this I remember the yoga class I took from you in the mid 1970s on 9th Avenue in San Francisco.
I just finished reading your story from lawyer to mediator. So inspiring to see how your life is evolving. Happy to see your work is taking you to the Netherlands, my Dutch roots… fascinating that you are in Poland!
With love and appreciation for you and your work,
Suza

]]> Comment on Crossing the Chasm by Ike Lasater http://wordsthatwork.us/site/2012/02/crossing-the-chasm/comment-page-1/#comment-4369 Ike Lasater Thu, 29 Mar 2012 19:00:22 +0000 http://wordsthatwork.us/site/?p=868#comment-4369 I am touched reading these comments, imagining that what Julie and I have offered is being received as a contribution. Thank you, each of you, for your time and care to comment. warmly, Ike I am touched reading these comments, imagining that what Julie and I have offered is being received as a contribution. Thank you, each of you, for your time and care to comment. warmly, Ike

]]> Comment on Changing Habitual Reaction Patterns by Ike Lasater http://wordsthatwork.us/site/2012/03/changing-habitual-reaction-patterns/comment-page-1/#comment-4368 Ike Lasater Thu, 29 Mar 2012 18:57:10 +0000 http://wordsthatwork.us/site/?p=897#comment-4368 Pam: I am pleased you see an immediate use for this. I look forward to leaning how it goes. Nil: Yes, it is an iterative process. There is no point at which I have found that I can say I am done. There is always the next moment and the next challenge. Pam: I am pleased you see an immediate use for this. I look forward to leaning how it goes.
Nil: Yes, it is an iterative process. There is no point at which I have found that I can say I am done. There is always the next moment and the next challenge.

]]> Comment on Changing Habitual Reaction Patterns by Nil http://wordsthatwork.us/site/2012/03/changing-habitual-reaction-patterns/comment-page-1/#comment-4351 Nil Wed, 28 Mar 2012 13:47:05 +0000 http://wordsthatwork.us/site/?p=897#comment-4351 Ike thanks for sharing this process as i see it is not easy and not one time application but it is like a continuous improvement loops to create new behaviour to mee your needs! It worth to try! Thanks... Ike thanks for sharing this process as i see it is not easy and not one time application but it is like a continuous improvement loops to create new behaviour to mee your needs! It worth to try! Thanks…

]]> Comment on Changing Habitual Reaction Patterns by Pam Refling http://wordsthatwork.us/site/2012/03/changing-habitual-reaction-patterns/comment-page-1/#comment-4332 Pam Refling Mon, 26 Mar 2012 20:25:22 +0000 http://wordsthatwork.us/site/?p=897#comment-4332 Ike, thank you for this post that is so timely for me. Next week I am meeting with a client that habitually reacts with her nursing staff in a way that has been very distressing for her. I appreciate the clarity of the process I can coach her through to help her discover she has more choices in her reactions, than she is currently seeing. Ike, thank you for this post that is so timely for me. Next week I am meeting with a client that habitually reacts with her nursing staff in a way that has been very distressing for her. I appreciate the clarity of the process I can coach her through to help her discover she has more choices in her reactions, than she is currently seeing.

]]> Comment on Crossing the Chasm by Anna Costa http://wordsthatwork.us/site/2012/02/crossing-the-chasm/comment-page-1/#comment-2925 Anna Costa Fri, 17 Feb 2012 15:00:59 +0000 http://wordsthatwork.us/site/?p=868#comment-2925 Thank you for your explanation about the ways you use to reach self-connection (breath, body and needs). I deeply agree about the difference between skill development and personal growth. Finally, I'm very interested about a kind of training that helps to build a bridge across the chasm : ) Thank you for your explanation about the ways you use to reach self-connection (breath, body and needs).
I deeply agree about the difference between skill development and personal growth.
Finally, I’m very interested about a kind of training that helps to build a bridge across the chasm : )

]]> Comment on Crossing the Chasm by Jane Burns http://wordsthatwork.us/site/2012/02/crossing-the-chasm/comment-page-1/#comment-2854 Jane Burns Thu, 16 Feb 2012 05:50:43 +0000 http://wordsthatwork.us/site/?p=868#comment-2854 Thanks Ike. This helps me think about how I respond to another's hurt that surprises me. Thanks Ike. This helps me think about how I respond to another’s hurt that surprises me.

]]> Comment on Crossing the Chasm by Ingrid http://wordsthatwork.us/site/2012/02/crossing-the-chasm/comment-page-1/#comment-2779 Ingrid Wed, 15 Feb 2012 00:47:21 +0000 http://wordsthatwork.us/site/?p=868#comment-2779 "...even if I’m saying all the right things because my intention wouldn’t be in alignment with my words." Thank you Ike for sharing your experience - opening yourself up/out like this 'touches the nerves' of the problem and moves me from my 'Head Understanding' to my 'Heart Understanding'. It is OK to give myself permission to take enough time as I need to connect with myself..... an "aha" moment was generated by your words that work! Thank you for sharing : ) “…even if I’m saying all the right things because my intention wouldn’t be in alignment with my words.”

Thank you Ike for sharing your experience – opening yourself up/out like this ‘touches the nerves’ of the problem and moves me from my ‘Head Understanding’ to my ‘Heart Understanding’.
It is OK to give myself permission to take enough time as I need to connect with myself….. an “aha” moment was generated by your words that work! Thank you for sharing : )

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