Comments for words that work

Comment on Ike’s Story: From Lawyer to NVC Mediator by Suza Francina

Suza Francina — Tue, 17 Apr 2012 04:08:43 +0000

Hello, Ike,
Greetings from Ojai. As I write this I remember the yoga class I took from you in the mid 1970s on 9th Avenue in San Francisco.
I just finished reading your story from lawyer to mediator. So inspiring to see how your life is evolving. Happy to see your work is taking you to the Netherlands, my Dutch roots… fascinating that you are in Poland!
With love and appreciation for you and your work,
Suza

Comment on Crossing the Chasm by Ike Lasater

Ike Lasater — Thu, 29 Mar 2012 19:00:22 +0000

I am touched reading these comments, imagining that what Julie and I have offered is being received as a contribution. Thank you, each of you, for your time and care to comment. warmly, Ike

Comment on Changing Habitual Reaction Patterns by Ike Lasater

Ike Lasater — Thu, 29 Mar 2012 18:57:10 +0000

Pam: I am pleased you see an immediate use for this. I look forward to leaning how it goes.
Nil: Yes, it is an iterative process. There is no point at which I have found that I can say I am done. There is always the next moment and the next challenge.

Comment on Changing Habitual Reaction Patterns by Nil

Nil — Wed, 28 Mar 2012 13:47:05 +0000

Ike thanks for sharing this process as i see it is not easy and not one time application but it is like a continuous improvement loops to create new behaviour to mee your needs! It worth to try! Thanks…

Comment on Changing Habitual Reaction Patterns by Pam Refling

Pam Refling — Mon, 26 Mar 2012 20:25:22 +0000

Ike, thank you for this post that is so timely for me. Next week I am meeting with a client that habitually reacts with her nursing staff in a way that has been very distressing for her. I appreciate the clarity of the process I can coach her through to help her discover she has more choices in her reactions, than she is currently seeing.

Comment on Crossing the Chasm by When You Stimulate Pain In Another Person: Tending to Harbored Hurts « NVC Mediation

Wed, 07 Mar 2012 01:25:50 +0000

[...] Mediation helps me get out out of this limbo space. (I wrote about returning to self-connection in a recent article on my Words That Work site.) We can use the Making Amends process when we have been the stimulus [...]

Comment on Crossing the Chasm by Anna Costa

Anna Costa — Fri, 17 Feb 2012 15:00:59 +0000

Thank you for your explanation about the ways you use to reach self-connection (breath, body and needs).
I deeply agree about the difference between skill development and personal growth.
Finally, I’m very interested about a kind of training that helps to build a bridge across the chasm : )

Comment on Crossing the Chasm by Jane Burns

Jane Burns — Thu, 16 Feb 2012 05:50:43 +0000

Thanks Ike. This helps me think about how I respond to another’s hurt that surprises me.

Comment on Crossing the Chasm by Ingrid

Ingrid — Wed, 15 Feb 2012 00:47:21 +0000

“…even if I’m saying all the right things because my intention wouldn’t be in alignment with my words.”

Thank you Ike for sharing your experience – opening yourself up/out like this ‘touches the nerves’ of the problem and moves me from my ‘Head Understanding’ to my ‘Heart Understanding’.
It is OK to give myself permission to take enough time as I need to connect with myself….. an “aha” moment was generated by your words that work! Thank you for sharing : )

Comment on Crossing the Chasm by Linda

Linda — Tue, 14 Feb 2012 22:21:30 +0000

I’m really enjoying the evolution of your newsletter Ike. I love the imagery of a chasm. I see that although the source of the pain appears to be outside, the external chasm is mirroring a chasm within oneself. I’m currently also interested in how shame can block willingness to cross the chasm. Thanks Ike x