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		<title>Changing Habitual Reaction Patterns</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Brian walks into the meeting with his team Monday morning determined to not react when Phil, a co-worker, speaks up. During the last two meetings, Brian has expressed his anger and then afterwards felt irritated and complained to another co-worker about how Phil is trying to take the project in the wrong direction. This time, [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://wordsthatwork.us/site/2012/03/changing-habitual-reaction-patterns/</link>
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		<title>Crossing the Chasm</title>
		<description><![CDATA[When I do something that stimulates pain in another person and they tell me about it, often the trajectory for me is generally the same; I start out thinking that it’s all the other person and none of it is my fault. I protect myself and place all the blame elsewhere. Even in talking to [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://wordsthatwork.us/site/2012/02/crossing-the-chasm/</link>
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		<title>Pattern of Disconnection: Getting The Point Across</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I have noticed a pattern of disconnection that occurs when I am really exited to communicate something. Often this pattern shows up when I have an insight that I am impassioned about and want to pass along because it has great meaning for me. It generally is an insight that has not been obvious until [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://wordsthatwork.us/site/2012/02/pattern-of-disconnection-getting-the-point-across/</link>
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		<title>Interpersonal Interactions as Catalysts for Change</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Interpersonal relationships provide an ongoing arena in which to practice NVC mediation skills, as well as a place to see how old patterns show up and make new choices in our behavior. Since much of this learning is about patterns that are habitual, it often takes some time to first notice the pattern and then [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://wordsthatwork.us/site/2012/01/interpersonal-interactions-as-catalysts-for-change/</link>
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		<title>“You’re So Great!” On Being, And Making Others, The Object Of Idealized Images</title>
		<description><![CDATA[We all project both positive and negative images onto other people. In our negative images we judge, label, and diagnose; in positive ones, we admire, label, and even revere. The effect is essentially the same; whether we are projecting our positive or negative images onto another person, we put them in a box. We limit [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://wordsthatwork.us/site/2011/12/%e2%80%9cyou%e2%80%99re-so-great%e2%80%9d-on-being-and-making-others-the-object-of-idealized-images/</link>
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		<title>Message Sent, Message Received</title>
		<description><![CDATA[We’ve all experienced times when we thought we understood someone or they understood us, only to later find out that we are on totally different pages. We end up wondering how this could have happened when we thought we were clearly communicating with each other. Yet if we think about it, we might find that [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://wordsthatwork.us/site/2011/10/message-sent-message-received/</link>
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		<title>Shame</title>
		<description><![CDATA[A few days ago I had an important conference call and in the days before the call, I was feeling anxious and distressed anticipating the call but unclear about why. I went for a walk the day of the call, and during the walk I realized I was feeling ashamed. I had the belief that [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://wordsthatwork.us/site/2011/06/shame/</link>
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		<title>Email and Task Overwhelm: Part 2</title>
		<description><![CDATA[By Ike Lasater and Julie Stiles At one level of dealing with the issue of overwhelm is just getting organized and creating a system to handle the “incoming” of things to do. Both of us are using some version of David Allen’s system known as Getting Things Done (GTD) for this aspect of handling overwhelm. [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://wordsthatwork.us/site/2011/05/email-and-task-overwhelm-part-2/</link>
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		<title>Email and Task Overwhelm: Part 1</title>
		<description><![CDATA[By Ike Lasater and Julie Stiles Ever sat in front of your email or task management program and felt overwhelmed? Too many emails, too much to do…where do you start? Both of us have been confronting this issue recently. I (Ike) mostly find it when I go to my email. When I’m in a certain [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://wordsthatwork.us/site/2011/05/email-and-task-overwhelm-part-1/</link>
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		<title>A Flight Simulator for Life</title>
		<description><![CDATA[We use a flight simulator metaphor in our trainings; we ask people to work in dyads and triads where they can have rehearsals and post-hearsals for the situations in their lives that they find difficult. If something has happened in the past that they would like to have responded to differently, if a pattern keeps [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://wordsthatwork.us/site/2011/02/a-flight-simulator-for-life/</link>
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